Happiness
Happiness
In my last post on The Change Blog, I talked about disconnecting your happiness from others – how when you depend on others for your happiness you only make yourself （and others） more unhappy. Instead,Bridal dresses school playground fitness equipment playground surface Swing sets I said, you need to find happiness within.
Easier said than done though, I know. To find happiness within, you can go to coaches, psychologists, psychiatrists, counsellors, therapists, or any other number of happiness professionals. You can read books, blogs, or magazines, watch TV shows and DVDs or listen to the radio, podcasts or self-improvement CDs. And yet when it comes down to it, there are only two things you need to remember if you want to be happy. garbage can emulsifying machine storage tank v-type mixer automatic bollard This is easy-sounding advice but probably one of the hardest things to actually implement. Human beings seem to be biologically programmed to think everything has something to do with them.
An earthquake hits their house? A direct attack on their happiness. A friend says something thoughtless and hurtful? An unfair and gratuitous attack and not because the friend has a splitting headache and has been dealing with a malfunctioning computer all day long. A loved one does something that's reminiscent of something that caused pain in the past? How dare the loved one bring up such hurtful memories! When we make things all about us and don't check our ego at the door, we shut out the world and yet at the same time expect everyone to consider our feelings, our needs and our emotional baggage before their own. Swing sets chanel replica piezo ceramic element Rotary printing screen supplier classic uggWe let pride cause us to react negatively and we let the past overly influence our responses to present situations.
Let's look at a （fictional） example: Let's say I've let my partner use my laptop. I don't like to run the computer on AC power with the battery plugged in just in case the battery has a "memory" - I want to maintain the life of the battery as long as I can. I've explainedauthentic ugg ugg sale telescope suppliers Air Source Heat Pump Water Heater cheap wedding dresses this to my partner and yet one day I come into the room and see that he's running the computer off AC power and has the battery plugged in as well.
Instead of accepting this explanation, I let pride and ego get in the way and stay angry for several hours, with thoughts like "how stupid could he be?" and "but I explained it to him!" running through my head. In fact, he reminds me of an ex who neveRubber mat buy wedding dresses Wood bench ugg boots ugg classic cardyr listened either and always did the opposite of what I ask.
Plus my partner is now upset because he's sorry that he misunderstood and angry because I've refused to accept his explanation. In the above example, if I had made an effort to hear my partner I would have quickly realized that although his misunderstanding was frustrating, it wasn't a personal attack or wanton negligence. As well with a little self-reflection,ugg australia wedding dresses wedding dress wedding gowns kids ugg boots I would have realized that my anger actually has little to do with the current situation and more to do with my own feelings of people not listening to or following my wishes. Again, since the current situation was a misunderstanding, it has nothing to do with the past.
